Gardening is a lot like writing, but it's also a break from writing.Read More
Just back from a trip to Martinique, where I surprised myself by loving the Carnaval parades!Read More
Times when I need it most, I fall behind on self care strategies that help me bring my best self to the page.
Everything becomes an either/or trap:
Either I can take 30 minutes to do some yoga or I can write.
Either I can spend 15 minutes reading something for fun (not for research) or I can write.
Either I can call a friend or I can write.
Writing wins most of the time.Read More
I was so young when Matthew Shephard was brutally murdered, but we were all so young then.
Matthew’s murder made me feel how vulnerable it was to be different. To be queer.
I was in the closet when he died, and I wouldn’t come out for another year. But on some soul level, I knew I was gay, too. I knew it could happen to me, in another place, in another time.Read More
I’m back from my writers residency in Alaska. Right now I’m getting back to speed: the bags are unpacked and I’m over the jetlag, and working on implementing the lessons I learned from my residency into a new workflow that will allow me to be as productive as possible on the important work.
I’ll share my insights on productivity and process in another blog post. Today I thought I would share a little of the factual information about my writers residency—where I went, what it was like, and some photos from southeast Alaska because it is BEAUTIFUL.Read More
While cleaning out my computer last year, I found some gems: Unpublished (and unpolished) short stories from my MFA program. After finishing my novel draft and feeling totally drained, editing the stories was the perfect way to tap back into creative writing without feeling the pressure of sustaining a story for hundreds of pages.Read More
By the time you read this, I will be en route to Cuba.
Sure, this sounds like just another winter vacation, albeit to a country that Americans haven’t been allowed to visit for a long time. For me, though, it’s much more than that.
See, I don’t take vacation for granted.Read More
On the way back from the Women’s March, my wife and I listened to a TED Radio Hour episode that got me thinking about the experience we’d just had marching in DC and the best way to take that momentum forward and make change.
The TED talk that stuck with me was about emotional correctness vs. political correctness —or why liberals are pricks, how that intersected with progressive messaging, and what we can learn from conservatives.Read More
I've never been as harassed as I was in Boston, despite the city's liberal image. It's honestly part of the reason I moved to the country.Read More