I witnessed a local organization fail to be an ally to the queer community this winter–and then fail to take responsibility for the fallout for several months. I thought I'd write it, then I just didn't want to relive the drama...and then, last month in Portland, I saw an organization totally take ownership for their actions and publicly commit to doing better, and it was so inspiring.Read More
Whether you’re writing queer characters or just want a name that conveys the perfect amount of spunk for a tomboy or femmey guy, here are 50 gender neutral names to consider.Read More
I was so young when Matthew Shephard was brutally murdered, but we were all so young then.
Matthew’s murder made me feel how vulnerable it was to be different. To be queer.
I was in the closet when he died, and I wouldn’t come out for another year. But on some soul level, I knew I was gay, too. I knew it could happen to me, in another place, in another time.Read More
It seems like everyone is breaking up with social media in 2018.
Or at least thinking about it.
Doing it for a week and going back to it.
Winnowing down the channels they devote time to, because who has time for social media? Who honestly has time?Read More
In a couple years I’ll be in college and out from under my parents’ thumb. Can’t I wait until then to let my rainbow freak flag fly?
My character’s words came to mind when I received a lesbian dating advice question from an Indian college student who felt trapped between a friend’s suspicion of her sexuality and her deep desire to remain in the closet through the rest of college. This woman was 20, and desperate to keep her secret hidden; I assumed this was because homosexuality is still criminalized in India and out gays and lesbians face widespread discrimination.Read More
The night before my wife and I headed off to celebrate Pride weekend (because it’s always Pride weekend somewhere in June) we attended a “what does pride mean to you?” panel at our local LGBT center. After hearing from intergenerational, multicultural LGBTQ individuals was interesting, we headed home to get ready for our trip — only to get a text from a friend that she wouldn’t be joining us at Pride because her ex didn’t think it was appropriate for their child.
No acknowledgement that it was a slap in the face remark from someone we’d invited to weddings, parties, and other events for years.Read More
In my early 20's I carried the certainty that I'd be gay bashed one day. I stayed closeted at work, a choice 53 percent of queers still make. I looked around before reaching for my girlfriend's hand, or dragged her into an alleyway to share a kiss, even in liberal Massachusetts and hipster Brooklyn.Read More
“Trump Appears Set to Reverse Protections for Transgender Students” the New York Times warns, specifically legislation put in place to allow school kids to pee in the bathroom that meets their gender identities. Hours later, he did just that claiming the legal argument for the protections needed more study (and of course, states rights to discriminate against whoever they want).Read More