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Remembering Matthew Shepard 20 Years Later

I was so young when Matthew Shephard was brutally murdered, but we were all so young then.

Matthew’s murder made me feel how vulnerable it was to be different. To be queer.

I was in the closet when he died, and I wouldn’t come out for another year. But on some soul level, I knew I was gay, too. I knew it could happen to me, in another place, in another time.

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How to Cope With the Stress of Being in the Closet

In a couple years I’ll be in college and out from under my parents’ thumb. Can’t I wait until then to let my rainbow freak flag fly?

My character’s words came to mind when I received a lesbian dating advice question from an Indian college student who felt trapped between a friend’s suspicion of her sexuality and her deep desire to remain in the closet through the rest of college. This woman was 20, and desperate to keep her secret hidden; I assumed this was because homosexuality is still criminalized in India and out gays and lesbians face widespread discrimination.

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Pride Guide: Here's How You Be an LGBTQ+ Ally for Pride

The night before my wife and I headed off to celebrate Pride weekend (because it’s always Pride weekend somewhere in June) we attended a “what does pride mean to you?” panel at our local LGBT center. After hearing from intergenerational, multicultural LGBTQ individuals was interesting, we headed home to get ready for our trip — only to get a text from a friend that she wouldn’t be joining us at Pride because her ex didn’t think it was appropriate for their child.

No apology.

No acknowledgement that it was a slap in the face remark from someone we’d invited to weddings, parties, and other events for years.

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We'll Never Be Able to Pee in Peace. Thanks Trump

“Trump Appears Set to Reverse Protections for Transgender Students” the New York Times warns, specifically legislation put in place to allow school kids to pee in the bathroom that meets their gender identities. Hours later, he did just that claiming the legal argument for the protections needed more study (and of course, states rights to discriminate against whoever they want).

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